ONE PROBLEM WITH MASSIVE WEIGHT LOSS
“YOU DON’T LOOK HEALTHY AFTER LOSING ALL THAT WEIGHT”
But what if you were that person who needs to take off a bit more weight —- like, say about 165 lbs? That’s exactly what “Roger” did a few years back. At a height of 5’9″ Roger realized that 330 lbs was not healthy. After hitting rock bottom, he said enough is enough, formulated a plan, and got down to work. He cut SODAS. He changed his diet. He started walking — a lot. And over the course of three years, he dropped about 165, getting down to under 170 lbs (sort of like TRACEY). Fantastic, isn’t it? Not everyone seemed to think so.
Roger told me the other day that he never once had a friend or relative (overweight or not) tell him that he looked unhealthy when he was twice his normal size. However, once he lost the weight, he started hearing the comments —- “Gee Roger; you look (sick / gaunt / unhealthy / emaciated / add your own adjective here) since you’ve lost all that weight“. It’s not a novel phenomenon.
I have not only seen it in any number of patients, I have experienced it myself. About 17 or 18 years ago, after seeing a pic of myself at the river, I got serious about a LOWER CARB APPROACH to eating and once again got serious about STRENGTH TRAINING. It wasn’t long before people were asking me what was wrong. “Doc; your face is so shrunken. Are you sick?” The truth is, America has become a nation of such physically large people that our view of what’s “normal” has gotten out of whack — way out of whack. And that doesn’t even touch the issue of ‘sabotage’.
When a person begins to lose weight, it is oftentimes (usually) their closest friends or even their family that will either purposefully or inadvertently sabotage their endeavors. It could be anything from a snide comment or a snarky remark. Or it might be something said about the way you look — or the fact that you FELL OFF THE WAGON. The truth is, there are any number of ways this happens.
It is important for you to understand that in many cases, instead of using your success as MOTIVATION, those closest to you will see it as accentuating their failure(s). It’s important for you to do whatever you have to do to not let others influence you negatively. By the way Roger, I think what you have done is absolutely amazing! If I were part of the younger generation, I might tell you that you look “sick” (as in phat) after losing all that weight.